Exploring Mediation in Netflix's Tiger King

Updated: Apr 7

Like many Americans practicing social-distancing, I find myself seeking at-home activities and binge-worthy shows to take my mind off of this bizarre and scary time. There are silver linings if you look for them. For example, I've found time to read, have virtual happy hours with friends, spend more time with my husband and daughter, and just be still without feeling guilty. (I have blocked the non-stop barrage of "advice" from out-of-touch celebrities pushing us to learn a new language and cook exotic meals. I hope you have too.) However, I think we can all agree that we've hit the couch potato jackpot with Netflix's Tiger King. Wow!

There are many things that I've pondered while watching the show:

1. A tiger only costs $2,000?

2. Meth + Tigers = Marrying Joe Exotic?

3. Did Carole feed her husband to a tiger?

4. Which of Joe's songs is the funniest?

5. Jeff Lowe is a #1 pick for a business partner?

6. Could mediation have helped Joe move forward instead of focusing his energy on "that b!*@h Carole Baskin"? Yes. A million times yes.


In many ways, Joe and Carole's issues began as a rather typical copyright and intellectual property dispute. They became fierce enemies because they both refused to address their conflict directly. Instead of addressing each other face-to-face (though in their case I would've recommended digital mediation) they continued to disparage each other on websites, YouTube videos, phone calls, and more. If they hired a mediator to hash out their differences in a professional setting, the outcome would have been different -- even for these two. Why? A mediator has the tools to elicit conversations and find common ground and a win-win solution to move two parties forward. Joe and Carole could've agreed to disagree on the methodology of raising large cats and ethical breeding. They could have shared best-practices and even pooled resources, but alas, they did not choose mediation. They continued their dispute through attorneys and online attacks costing them millions of dollars and ultimately jail time for Joe.


At one point in the show, Joe tried to mediate with Carole's new husband, Howard Baskin, over the phone but Jeff Lowe listened in on the conversation without making his presence known nor was there an agreement by all parties on the phone that he should be in attendance. I am assuming that a professional mediator was not on the line or in the room? If there was a mediator present, he or she would know that privacy, confidentiality, and an agreement to mediate is required before starting any mediation. Once Joe allowed Jeff Lowe to listen in and interfere with the discussion, distrust set in and mediation ended -- violating any modicum of trust left between the parties.


I began to visualize mediating this situation myself. Since I follow the mediator code of ethics, all parties would have a signed agreement to mediate in place and there would be no one allowed to spy on the phone or record our session. If Jeff were an official party to the mediation, I wouldn't have minded him expressing anger at Howard and Carole like he did in the documentary (though don't ask me to quote him here). Conflict is emotional but expected in mediation. Do parties in conflict curse or get angry during mediation? Yes. Professional mediators are unfazed by it and most of us would agree that it is better to be loud in mediation rather than in court in front of a judge. Intensity is often indicator of progress in mediation. A good mediator can handle anger, sadness, and all of the other emotions in-between, reframe the key items driving the emotional outburst, and push the conversation onto a productive path.


The takeaway from Tiger King is this: Whether you're Joe Exotic battling with Carole Baskin, an employee frustrated with a co-worker, or a spouse leaving a marriage, mediation can work efficiently while preserving your sanity, saving you time, and reducing your costs. Mediators are trained to not take sides and facilitate conversations toward a voluntary agreement between the parties. Most importantly, mediators are trained to be neutral. Am I a fan of zoos or animals being exploited or abused? Absolutely not. Did I find both Carole and Joe deeply flawed with murderous intent? Yes. Could I have put my own opinions aside and worked with them to help them figure out a path forward and put their conflict to rest? Absolutely. Mediation could've worked for them and it could work for you too.


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About the Author:

Erin Fisher is a certified mediator and founder of Atlantic Mediation Services, entrepreneur, and consultant. She was recently named to the Leadership Council of the National Small Business Association. She received an executive certification in negotiation and conflict resolution from the University of Notre Dame's Mendoza School of Business and her undergraduate degree in communication from West Virginia University. Ms. Fisher was inspired by her own experiences in family mediation and works with private clients to identify and reconcile competing interests related to property distribution, custody plans, and visitation. Relying on nearly two decades supporting the Department of State, Ms. Fisher works with clients to establish peace in the workplace. She traveled extensively overseas and provided conflict resolution and mediation services related to contracts, employee dynamics, change management, and more by remaining open-minded, neutral, and unbiased to differences.

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